I was conversing with a client about the problems he was having in his life and business. Most of Dreams' clients are rather successful individuals not only in business but to some degree in their personal lives as well. This is not to say their lives are ideal but there is a common thread about the type of man we attract.

This client, let's call him George, was hitting a ruff spot in his life and career and things were beginning to go south. The one thing he has always been impressed with is the professionalism and consistency of Dreams personnel. Hey what owner wouldn't love to get compliments about his people I know I do. He said, "I wish I had the kind of success with my people you have with yours."

I thought about that for a second and I said "Well, why don't you?" He sighed for a second and said exactly what I knew he would say, " I don't know".

Now, I don't know what your belief system is nor am I privy to your specific model of the world. After all, as the saying goes "there is no reality only perception". But for a moment, I invite you to enter my reality or personal delusion and walk with me.

There is an axiom, which I believe and it applies to one's personal life as well as business. ‘Who you are, is whom you attract.' There is a common perception that you as a business owner will just go forth and find the kinds of people you want and the truth is it really doesn't work that way. Yes you can have a laundry list of qualities and objective qualifications but in the end most often you draw people who possess the same qualities you do. The inverse of this truth also applies, you will attract individuals who also possess the same challenges. Are there exceptions to this concept? Hell yes! And you can be assured barring conscious interference the rule will win out more often than not.

We can list off the keys to success after all most of you know them. However, there is one crucial part few talk about ... Self image.

When I say to you:

"Who are you?"

What comes into your mind ?

If you answered I'm a ( state your race) ( state your sex) ( state your age).[i.e. ( white male 45)]

Sorry *buzzer sound* Guess again.

Annoying isn't it?

So many people go through life and they not only don't know who they are, but also don't know what they stand for? If you don't know who you really are as a person, have a clear sense of defined self then in essence, you are lost and you're just going through the motions. I dare even say, you my friend are just existing.

OK, lets say then the latter is true, here you are in your life and you've just discovered you are lost. Sadly, this didn't just happen and if you're married that relationship most likely is just a daily habit or at worse yet another obligation. Some people by the way define this as a sell out marriage those of you who are in one you KNOW exactly what I'm talking about so stop the denial.

What?

You think you're alone?

You think I don't take calls every day from individuals like yourself who just for a moment want a respite from our collective male world of "obligation"? Sorry bud, but if your reading my blog for a pity party you knocked on the wrong door.

The world around you, the world you have manifested and created for yourself is but a reflection of your inner world of self. Therefore, in my model of the world if I am not happy, if I'm lost and not getting the results I want in life I (Lee Dreams) am accountable.

If you accept this empowering premise, then you also know you can change it.

Self-image is one of the determinants of success and failure in life. One of the elements of training for Dreams people is the concept of self-image and the ideal self. Ideal self is the personality we would like to be. It consists of our goals and ambitions, and is dynamic in nature. Then there is the perceived self of how one sees themselves and finally the real self of who you really are.

The best escorts (top 10%) have a solid and positive image of self. Granted many of them don't come through the door that way, but by the time you see them my training goal is they will. After all, how do you think Dreams women are able to give you that zone of respite, retreat and reprieve from the daily wearing grind of burden and obligation we as a men are born to carry for that hour or three hours so effectively? Not to put a fine point on it guys however if you got that at home, I wouldn't be in business. This business helps many of you be the top notch protectors and providers which is our duty as men to be.

Being lost doesn't make you a bad person, it also doesn't make you a failure, it makes you human. The way out begins with a simple little tenant I teach my own people.

You have to like yourself.

Every morning you get up, you look in the mirror and you say, "I like myself" over an over and you mean it. Do it while driving, while running and before that meeting. GET WORKED UP IN A FRENZY. This is where it begins because if you think about it, when you invest in yourself by seeing a Dreams Escort isn't that part of the reason? To spend a short time in a relaxing atmosphere where you can enjoy, surrender and like yourself ? Think about it, you don't come to see us for uncertainty, hostility, indifference and isolation, now do you?

The most astute Dreams Escort understands this simple principle:

"Attitude and personality are as important as experience and ability. Choose wisely. "
-Brian Tracy-

So George my man... you want to change your business, first tell yourself "you like yourself", say it, mean it, feel it! Then honestly and truly find out who you are and most importantly what do you stand for as a man, soul and business owner. Once you've started down that path, I know with absolute certainty things at the shop will turn themselves around.

In the meantime, how about a 3 hour session with Alexandra?!! She has this hot bath and rub down that will cause a spiritual revival in you. ­

*Laugh*

Life is a road so be good to your follow travelers and walk in peace ladies and gentlemen.

Lee ^

I've been in this business for 13 years my colleague Mike at Fantasys! has been in this business for over 25 with NO problems.... ever!. Between us we've been witness to a lot of changes and been at the forefront of many of them. Correspondingly we've also seen many of the same predictable cycles and common denominators repeat themselves over and over. Over time this has led to the Fantasys! Network operational paradigm which all "member" agencies and independents must operate under.Law Enforcement in most places is just doing their job, it's nothing personal it's just business. Most of them would rather go after serious crime however when they are given a directive with sufficient political juice to pursue a "complaint" they must comply. This is the system which most jurisdictions are basically governed by in "functional reality". This also means all this stuff is very predictable. No matter what market you're in we have observed there are behaviors and unsafe practices which given time will led to the inevitable negative outcome. At Fantasys and Dreams we are dead set against them and to us they are operational givens YOU DON'T DO.

"Most often, it's not your business life that gets you in trouble it's your personal life."

Dreams and Fantasys have a zero drug tolerance policy. If you do drugs you can't work with me and Mike certainly wont work with you either. If you're a client and you show up, F-cked up you will be BANNED your client code revoked, you'll be placed on multiple national banned lists WITH PREJUDICE !!!. The goes for the high standards independents who also use FantasyClientScreening as well and they will show you the door call and have you BANNED!! Hey if you want to associate with people who do drugs that's your business however don't be surprised when it comes back on you in some way shape or form. Many escort busts start out as drug investigations and the next thing you know, their giving you up to save their ass! (I'm NOT implying that was the case in Howard County by the way.)

For the most part I will work in conjunction with another provider however we will NOT work with other providers. The reason is simple, you don't know what they're doing in their personal life that will follow them back to the call you're both sharing. Granted this could be said of anyone and it does apply. The only personal life I can control is my own. As for our associates I'm not above random Drug tests. Problem people have predictable behavioral cues and patterns. I'll bring it to their attention once and if they don't address it their gone. As far as I'm concerned they are a risk to me, the other associates and you guys "the clients".

Election year is no different than deer season, expect to be hunted. Especially places where DA's are elected and it's a Presidential Election year simultaneously ..... watch out !! Seen it so many times in so many places I now set my watch to it.... seriously I'm not kidding.

From our multiple market experience permanent incall locations are tantamount to painting a bullseye on your back. If you think your neighbors don't notice the traffic to your door (as a rule), you're kidding yourself. Case in point "Denver Players". Sure some providers look at it as less costs, less hassle but sooner or later someone will be "indiscreet" or you may have a stalker client drop a dime on you. Especially when he discovers... " no he can't be your boyfriend and "save you" and how dare you see other men!" There is a line between "US" and "THEM" you don't cross it, this is a business. I would say do the research but we already have, I'll save you the trouble, those of you who do incalls in your home / apartment are putting yourselves and clients at risk. Not to mention in some jurisdictions opening yourself up to a multitude of seizure laws. This includes the separate furnished short term rental (office or not) of a month or more. All it takes is a couple of phone calls and you could be under surveillance since LEO knows where to find you at their convenience !!.

It never ceases to amaze me the number of individuals who think they can get away with using minors. It's morally wrong and you should go to jail. Also using illegal immigrant's especially if they are supplied by some Euro-trash with names like Ivan or Boris will bring unwanted scrutiny. HushHush could probably tell you volumes on similar basic concepts.

If you rely on your instincts to tell if he's a "civil employee" or not, you get what you deserve. That is not only and act in "my opinion" of stupidity but of supreme EGO! In todays business environment Client Screening is a must and I'm NOT talking about provider references either. Sorry, if I offend however to me it's tantamount to relying on gossip since you NEVER know who's compromised and we've seen this system fail multiple times over the years, most recently in NYC, FL, Nashville and Indianapolis. (However it's better than nothing.) Times have changed and in the Dreams and Fantasys model of the world safety is NUMBER ONE !FantasyClientScreening), with custom in house designed software on offshore servers and security up the wazoo. Fantasys has a dedicated screening division (

All this was a result of seeing a major consciousness shift about 6 years ago in the Law Enforcement community and this was the logical response to keep people safe and raise industry standards. Say what you will (I'm not here to debate it) about the FantasysClientScreening requirements but my FIRST obligation is to the women who entrust their lives to me, an obligation I take fanatically serious. Providers who are too easily accessible are easy targets plan and simple. If they get her hope you're not laying in bed in her permanent location when they come through the door.

LEO has an obligation to protect the community from unsafe practices which will historically result in a public health threat. From my prospective and Mike's who has written about this on his blog, (FantasyEscortBlogs ) as well as I, bareback is for horses. In many jurisdictions if you have a reputation as a provider for indulging in it don't be surprised if your targeted, plane and simple. In my business model it's not an acceptable practice and I have an obligation to do all I can to insure not only the safety of our associate but the client as well. Oh and by the way, those of you with considerably lower personal standards, next time you DFK your favorite provider who is known for BBBJTC enjoy that extra salty flavor. Let me congratulate you on sucking another guys D-ck. Think about it. ...and before you say it..... I'll pose the question.... Do you really think you are always the "first" one for the day ?

In God we trust is the way I do business. Credit cards unless your merchant account is under "Escort Services" is a no no. (Good luck getting one in the USA these days) While many of us were sleeping they changed the laws. Taking CC payments for "time spent" when your merchant account is for selling cosmetics is called money laundering and falls under the RICO act and is a Felony !! On top of that I strongly suggest, if you are going to do it any ways ladies, only take "personal cards" do not accept "business credit cards". Business accounts are subject to a whole other level of scrutiny which you don't need. Especially if he's a Fed or municipal employee then he just paid you with "public funds". Congratulations possible scrutiny from the Federal Anti-corruption task-force...wonderful... Is there a way to safely take Credit cards ? Yes.... and NO I'm NOT sharing.

Every April I bend over to Uncle Sam (Yes, I take it like a man) and I pay my taxes. *OUCH*

Why ?

Simple.... two words or one name....

Al Capone.

Need I say more ?

Plus too I'm a Patriot I see it as my civic duty. The IRS doesn't care what you do as long as you pay your taxes. The only time what you do becomes an issue is when you get caught for NOT paying it. Make no mistake, if you're targeted and they can't make anything stick, your case will be handed over to the IRS and all of a sudden those taxes you should have paid may be cheaper than a lawyer. This is why form 8300 is important and if you're doing transactions over 10K fill the damn thing out so the bank doesn't get a hair up their ass.

This industry has been around since the beginning of time and will always be here we know it, they know it. However if you indulge in the things I've mentioned chances are you've increased your statistical chances of being culled from the herd. We are a necessary evil that in many places will be tolerated as long as we maintain certain standards, be discreet and don't be the subject of phone calls to the local tip hot line.

But theses are just my personal standards, delusions and belief systems..... yours of course may vary.

"Life is a road so be good to your follow travelers and walk in peace ladies and gentlemen."

Lee ^